Caleb's birthday

well we celebrated caleb's birthday yesterday, we had a little bbq with the mozo's which was fun, the kids played guitar hero and i had a try at it, that is hard! they came out and went to church with us which we always love. caleb didn't fawn over his volcom cake but i think he liked it. he did inform me that the left side is supposed to be black, i knew that but people don't like black icing so i didn't do as much. he is just a hard kid for me right now. he doesn't express anything, thank you, i love you etc. matt keeps telling me just to be patient and let him be who he is but i want him to be loving and kind and right now he is just such a "teenager". i love him and he is a good kid and i have to be happy about that.he does such odd things, 3 days ago he had really long hair and we kept telling him he had to cut it so he went over to nicole's and cut it himself. we said we needed to take you to get a haircut, he said that is a waste of money -you pay them to know what they are doing! matt said let it go for a week and then he has to get it cleaned up by the barber. caleb says i am always ashamed of him or in hawaiian "you so shame". i am trying to shape him into a good, clean, responsible boy. mom's get that right? i guess i will be patient a little longer. my friend sondra tells me when he goes on his mission it will all change. just 2 more years:)